Fraser Valley Wellness Center is a private codependency and addiction treatment centre in Abbotsford, BC. It is proven that symptoms of codependency can worsen if left untreated. Our cost effective therapy, high quality codependency programs encourage the use of common sense. Codependent relationships are often destructive and-or abusive. This is one of the reasons why Fraser Valley Wellness includes effective equine therapy with our programs for codependency.
Codependency is also known as relationship addiction. Codependent behavior is described as a mostly one-sided relationship where an individual relies on someone else to meet most of their emotional and self-esteem needs. Codependent behavior is often learned by observing and mimicking other family members who exhibit this kind of behavior. There are varying degrees of codependency.
The term codependency was originally used to describe members of families with substance abuse issues, but now more broadly encompasses other types of dysfunctional relationships. Codependency also refers to relationships that encourage, or enable, inadequate, inappropriate or destructive behavior, such as addiction. Some of the traits that are associated with codependency:
- Low self-esteem
- Low levels of narcissism
- Family dysfunction
- Low emotional articulacy
Codependency is commonly found within toxic romantic relationships and dysfunctional family dynamics. Someone who is codependent shapes their identity around helping others. They may depend on others approval for their own self-esteem. A codependent person may deny their own desires or emotions to get this approval. When taken to the extreme, the results can be catastrophic unless treated by professional therapists.
Signs of Codependency
There are varying degrees of codependent behavior and the existence of these signs does not necessarily mean codependence. However, having many of these signs suggest that codependency is a possibility and may be something to look at. Here are some signs of codependency:
- Hard to say no
- Poor boundaries
- Emotional reactivity
- Obsessive need to take care of others
- Need for control, particularly over others
- Difficulty communicating honestly
- Obsessing over mistakes
- Wanting to be liked by everybody
- Wanting to always be in a relationship
- Denying your own needs, thoughts, and feelings
- Intimacy problems
- Mistaking pity for love
- Fear of abandonment
If you use most of your energy meeting your partner’s needs, if you feel stuck in that relationship, if you are the only one making sacrifices in your relationship, then you are likely in a relationship that is codependent. Everyone has people they love and feel responsible for, but it is important not to lose one’s own, separate personality.
For some, the insecurity caused by codependency can development into serious social anxiety disorders such as social phobia, avoidant personality disorder or painful shyness. Other stress-related disorders like panic disorder, depression or PTSD may also be present.
Treatment for Codependency
Codependency is often rooted in childhood, so treatment therapy generally includes exploring childhood issues and how they relate to existing destructive behavior patterns.
At Fraser Valley Wellness Center our treatment therapy includes education (the first step in altering harmful behavior is to understand it), individual and group therapy where codependents explore and learn about themselves and recognize self-defeating behavior patterns. Our treatment also concentrates on supporting patients in getting in touch with feelings buried since childhood, on restructuring family dynamics and enabling them to feel a full range of emotions again.
At Fraser Valley Wellness Center, education and traditional treatment is combined with innovative holistic approaches, such as Equine (horse) Therapy, Expressive Arts Therapy, and Yoga Therapy.
If you need codependency treatment then give us a call. We also offer a free PHONE CONSULTATION on therapy programs for codependency.